We've been focusing our attention on improving marriages lately during the "Save the Date" series (watch/listen here). Many couples start drifting apart because they don’t spend enough intentional time together. We want to invest more time in marriage, but life is busy. Sometimes it's good just to get away alone together. One regular rhythm we try to model is getting away every 90 days for 2-3 nights without the kids. It doesn’t have to be far or expensive. The point is to get out of our regular space and spend time together.

Here are our top picks for close get-aways:

1. OBX NC

It’s only a 2 hour drive but a world away. Of course it’s crowded in the summer, but shoulder season (fall) is heavenly. We love driving on the 4x4 access beaches and watching the sunset on the sound. Walking the beach or just biking through town (we prefer smaller villages like Avon, Hatteras and Duck) is always our highlight.

2. Blue Ridge Mountains

This is actually my wife’s preferred destination. Whether we camp in Shenandoah or find an airbnb nearby this is where she loves to go in the fall. Hiking and scenic vistas abound in Virginia’s only National Park. We always make time to drive the blue ridge parkway too.

3. DC

We realized a few years ago it was cheaper and more relaxing to ride the train from Norfolk to Washington DC. We don’t have to find parking for our car or fight traffic for 3-4 hours. The scenic train ride is part of the experience. The wifi and snack car help too. Once we get to DC we typically stay within walking distance of the national mall or the Baseball stadium depending on what we plan to do.

4. Eastern Shore

The Chesapeake bay Bridge Tunnel toll is so expensive that the Eastern Shore remains relatively undeveloped and untouched by the busy lifestyle of Hampton Roads. Less than an hours drive away are beautiful empty beaches and small towns like Cape Charles right on the bay.

5. Richmond

Richmond has grown into a food scene over the years. There are numerous districts in Richmond proper and just outside the city known for quality restaurants and entertainment. We typically drive since it’s less than a 2 hour drive from our home. We try to visit when there’s a concert, play or comedian we want to see in one of Richmond’s historic theaters.

6. Williamsburg

Growing up I assumed everybody lived near an old town like Williamsburg. It was a regular field trip in school. As an adult we’ve realized how special Williamsburg can be. There’s the beauty of colonial Williamsburg, but also the shoppes and restaurants in downtown. History buffs will love it. Williamsburg is just 45-55 minutes from most of Hampton Roads. When we visit we typically try to visit a new restaurant (there are too many to choose from).

7. Smithfield, VA

Just up the road you’ll find an old downtown with a hotel and a waterfront hotel with a restaurant and marina. It’s a walkable small town full of charm. Perfect for a quick getaway. One of our favorite BBQ spots (Q Daddy’s) is close by too.

8. Local Hotels

If you don’t feel like leaving town, consider booking an ocean front stay in Virginia Beach in the off season. Rooms at the Renaissance in Portsmouth have an incredible view of the Norfolk Skyline. Explore the beauty in our own backyard. Stay in a part of town you’ve never frequented. Many of our favorite restaurants are in Ghent. There’s a reason tourists head to our area each season. There’s much to do and see right here.

9. Edenton NC

Just over the state line you’ll find a charming small town full of old fashioned bed and breakfasts. The harbor is full of boats and restaurants. We enjoy walking around the historic homes in some of the oldest neighborhoods near the waterfront.

10. First Landing State Park

We love camping, but sometimes can’t get away away. First Landing (formerly Seashore State Park) is a great camping option nearby. You can walk to the bay from your campsite and watch the sunset. The sites are large and private. The restrooms are clean and close by as well. There are plenty of walking trails as well. They have recently added yurts if tent camping isn’t your thing.